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Dear Katrina Marie
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How can I tell if a man is really interested in me or just wasting my time. I have gone on several dates where it seems like men are just wasting my time,
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Signed
Exhausted.
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Dear Exhausted…
I know being unclear about a man’s feelings concerning you can be frustrating. The most uncomfortable place to exist is in a place of uncertainty. Especially when it comes to allowing someone in your life who you would like to cover, comfort and create companionship with. But also understand... time is not a resource that you should waste either. It is the one thing that you can NOT get back. Often times we use our heart to make decisions where wisdom should lead the way. With that being said, let’s talk about some of the best ways to know if a man is really feeling you.
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He initiates text and phone calls and responds in an appropriate time. Don’t forget he’s probably working too so if he doesn’t answer you 60 second later, allow the man some grace LOL!!
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He stays in touch with you daily. When a guy likes you, he wants to hear your voice or see your name pop up in his text messages. Even on the days you don’t see each other, he checks in to say hey or to let you know he was just thinking about you.
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He will make time. Even if he is busy, he will work around his schedule to see you. A person is never too busy to do what they want to do. He will make room for you in his life.
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He will spend time with you consistently and often. He will want to be in your presence even if you are doing absolutely nothing. Your presence becomes his peace.
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He will take time to get to know your likes and dislikes. He will want to learn your love language even if he doesn’t know that’s what he’s doing. He will be intentional about understanding the little things that make you tick.
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Sex does not become his priority for wanting to see you. He’ll even wait. (yea.. I know right! LOL) Even though he’s attracted to you and is dying to “slide inside”, he respects your boundaries and will wait until you’re ready.
Contrary to the noise He will spend his money on you. He does not have a problem with showing you that he has not only the ability but the desire to want to do things for you.
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He starts to share his thoughts. His dreams. His aspirations. He lets his guard down and becomes more comfortable with being himself… laughing, sharing, and being his authentic self.
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Last, but not least…He asks you to be exclusive and date only him. The idea of sharing you will not be an option.
It’s true. Men do have plenty of options and don’t really have to work very hard to find a date. But to find LOVE, they’ll happily make an effort. You won’t have to guess if he likes you. He will make it a point to make sure you know that he does.
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Men have a lot of game and will truly waste your time if you let him. Don’t be a victim of what men SAY… watch what they DO! Approach this question within a reasonable timeline. If you guys have been dating 30 days and you’re still wondering, then the answer is… “He just not that into you”.
Walk away. Regroup. Recoup. And prepare yourself to meet someone who been dying to meet someone like you.
